One of the illusions of dating from the female perspective is that generally guys are scared away by commitment, "clingy" behavior, or nonsexual intimacy.
It’s true some are, but the reason this view is so popular is not because it’s true, but because of a ‘sampling bias’ generated by the types of guys women are attracted to. The “kind” of guy who is not scared away by commitment, by definition, will be in more committed relationships - he therefore will be in the dating pool less often AND when he is in the dating pool will have less experience in attracting women. The man who is uncomfortable with commitment, by definition will be in less committed relationships - he therefore will be in the dating pool more often. Since he will be single more often, he will have experienced the “meet girl, attract girl, date girl” process more often, giving him more practice and insights into what behavior is attractive to women.
This illusion is so subtle it’s easy to understand why women think what they do - what’s sad is the types of guys women claim to want only pop their head into the dating pool for a short time, and when they do they’re rejected for not being completely socially calibrated and “weird” due to lack of experience.
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